"They all laughed at Christopher Colombus when he said the world was round,
They all laughed when Edison recorded sound"
—"They All Laughed"
Lyrics by Ira Gershwin
According to the findings of Dr. John Eliot, what makes one a better performer than another is an incredible dream.
YOU WILL NOT DO INCREDIBLE THINGS WITHOUT AN INCREDIBLE DREAM
People these days seem to talk about sex or personal family matters like they talk about the weather, but dare not utter a word about what really stirs their souls. They are afraid to confess that they want to climb the Matterhorn or play golf on the Senior Tour, they are embarrassed to admit that they're writing a screenplay or would love to quit their job and make a living chartering tall ship-sailing adventures around the world. Revealing your ultimate dream has become one of the few things not fit to mention in polite company.
The natural tendency of humans is to calm the big dreamers down, mainly out of concern that such big expectation would only lead to disappointment. It could also be out of envy, because the big dreamer has given himself the permission chase his dreams down regardless of other people seeing the big dreamer as a bit loony, unrealistic, or quixotic.
"DON'T FOLLOW YOUR DREAMS, CHASE THOSE F*CKERS DOWN!"
Such advice can come out of genuine concern for your well-being; but it stems more often than not from people's own fears: they don't want to fail, so they don't want you to fail. Besides, if they tell you to go for it, and you don't make it, it would be their fault right? They certainly don't want to be responsible for your frustration and disappointment. If they have some insight or knowledge that can prevent you from being heartbroken, that's good advice. It seems logical.
Not to high performers. High performers don't waste any time trying to prevent upsets along the way, they don't mind criticism. Obstacles are just a part of the process And those unpleasant feelings of failure? They can't even come close to outweighing the propelling passion of their dreams. Don't let anyone discourage from your dreams.
Psychological research over the past three decades has shown that an individual's dream is a crucial motivator, not matter how improbably or nutty that dream may seem to everyone else. As Ira Gershwin noted, to make history you have to be a bit nutty. "Normal people" do not sail westward from Europe hoping to find the Far East (Columbus) or build amusement parks in a Florida swamp (Walt Disney). Normal people do not believe they can run faster than scientists are "proving" the human body can go (Roger Bannister, who broke the four-minute-mile barrier in 1954) or pitch in the major league even though they have only one arm (Jim Abbott, the handicapped pitcher who played in the major league for ten years from 1989 to 1999). Normal people do not quit practicing law to write a novel (John Grisham) or take a breather in the prime of their legendary acting career to race cars or found a popcorn/salad company that donates all its profits to help kids with serious illnesses (Paul Newman). There's nothing normal about going to bed dreaming about revolutionizing science, medicine, computers, the marketplace, or the world.
Exceptional people are willing to put up with the smirks, the jokes, and the laughter, to pursue happiness. Even though your dreams might constantly be put down; they might never come true. But you'll always be vibrantly happy chasing those f*ckers down.
In good health,
Efren Guerrero Rodriguez
High Performance Personal Training